Most likely we could consider kind and tenderhearted as two different injunctions. However, it seems best to reflect on them together as complimentary expressing two dimensions of the same matter. Kind seems to focus on the actor. The instruction regarding … Continue reading →

On many occasions, when presenting a marriage seminar, I would use the following illustration and with remarkable consistency get the same audience response. A young man came home from the office and greeted his wife with a gentle kiss. It … Continue reading →

One of the facts about being married is that folks are not always all warm and fuzzy about each other. Sometimes Mary dose not sleep well. The baby cries. The dog wines when it thunders. The five year old comes … Continue reading →

Please Note:  This dialogue represents an all-too-typical pastor’s marriage. Following the case verbatim is a counseling plan to reverse this situation. Jon:  Charles, for us to come to you is about the most difficult thing we have ever done.  You hold a … Continue reading →

CONFRONTING ONE ANOTHER Confront one another! Wow, that sounds like fighting words! What marriage needs a deliberate argument? That is a good question. And the answer does not sound right. Every marriage needs a deliberate argument sometimes times if you … Continue reading →

You would expect it to be natural for a husband and wife to encourage one another. Most couples, when they step up to the altar, have every intention of encouraging the mate.However, all too often it does not take long … Continue reading →

Remember, in this series of essays we are looking at the biblical Protocols for Christian relationships and applying them to the most intimate of all relationships, marriage. Review Romans 15:1-13 as the context for this essay. Consider also that this … Continue reading →

Yes, it is true. The husband is responsible to set a tone of love in a marriage by loving his wife as Christ loved the church and by loving his wife as he loves himself (Eph 5). However, we will … Continue reading →

Some years ago we were on vacation in Florida and attended Sunday worship at a church of our denomination that was pastored by one of my former students. We arrived little early (I was not sure of the location and … Continue reading →

Listen to your own heart! What is your motivation? What is your expectation? What is your disappointment? What are you feeling? Answering these questions will help you manage your emotions and therefore your words. Listen to your mate’s heart! Don’t … Continue reading →