John Gottman* writes about the four horsemen of the apocalypse. He is not writing about prophecy. He is borrowing apocalyptic language to speak of four forces that sweep in and bring calamity to a marriage. He names these four horsemen … Continue reading →

As Rush Limbaugh would say sarcasm and parody are lost on those of liberal persuasion. Perhaps this piece is a bit risky. But a bit of comic relief is good for the marriage relationship as well as other relationships. It … Continue reading →

The last several days have provided an opportunity to be reminded of one of the simple civilities that enhances the marital relationship. The cultural environment in which I grew up was not known for its gentility. Our farming community was … Continue reading →

Geanna came to this country when she was thirteen years old. It was her first time to get on an airliner. When she landed in London, it was the first western city she ever experienced. On the next leg of … Continue reading →

Recently I had the opportunity to minister in another church. At the first service a young man approached me to inquire as to my availability to counsel with him. I agreed and we set an appointment. His first question was … Continue reading →

Christ-centered disciple making is not a new concept to the counseling ministry. For a number of years I have been teaching that biblical counseling is micro-disciple. A couple comes for counseling regarding some marital issue. The task is not to … Continue reading →

Unfortunately there are many pathways that people have taken into the disaster of an affair. One of the special joys of my ministry is the restoration of a marriage that has suffered the incredible painful experience of unfaithfulness. There are … Continue reading →

The following scenario projects the experience of a real couple (names change) who are typical of many couples I have worked with over the years. It speaks to us as parents and it speaks to us as mates. As parents … Continue reading →

In a world of identify confusion, it is worth a few moments to consider that Eve was created to be a suitable helper to Adam. Let’s see what this means by considering Genesis 2:18-25. At the end of each creative … Continue reading →