SCOTUS Decisions: Now What?

Framing My Comments I responded to a local business survey recently—the questions related to how the current political leadership was impacting business in our area. One of the questions asked was about political affiliation. While I am a registered Republican, … Continue reading

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Love and Leaving: The Dilemma of Marriage

The Problem Odd as it may sound, a problem that appears in counseling is that one or the other mate has concluded that to honor the parents, the couple must obey the parents. John and Mary1 were married about a … Continue reading

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Thirty-Seven Ways to Ensure Marital Joy

The Status of Marriage in America According to the new census data, the median duration of current marriages in the U.S. has increased an exciting eight months in the last decade. It jumped from 19 years in 2010 to 19.8 … Continue reading

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Who Can Destroy Your Marriage?

Framework Andree Seu Peterson’s piece in World magazine March 26, 2022, sets the framework of today’s rumination on the institution of marriage. I have often found her column a source of inspiration. In this one, Andree focuses on our contemporary … Continue reading

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Life Is Like the River

Comparison of Characteristics A river has four characteristics that can help us constructively consider our lives. I have seen numerous young married couples in crisis because they experienced different lives than anticipated.  For example, Pam and I married on September … Continue reading

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Wow! I Did That When I Said I Do?

Wow! I Did That When I Said I Do? The Contrast of Two Marriages My parents were married for sixty years. My aunt gave them a 50th-anniversary celebration. On the way to the dinner, I ask Pam, if we were … Continue reading

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Destructive Husbanding

Through one of my supervisees, I was introduced to an observation made by author Jimmy Evans in his work Marriage on the Rock. Evans observed that there were four types of destructive styles of husbanding. I would invite my male … Continue reading

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Wow! I Did That When I Said I Do?

The Contrast of Two Marriages My parents were married for sixty years. My aunt gave them a 50th anniversary celebration. On the way to the dinner, I ask Pam, if we were going to a celebration of a beautiful relationship … Continue reading

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How to Have a Happy Marriage: The Book of Ephesians

Marriage is bigger than you. When marriage is all about me or all about us, we diminish it to a human institution. We diminish it to the means of getting what I or we desire. In so doing, we sin … Continue reading

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What Does the Office of Deacon and Marriage Have in Common?

Yesterday I experienced an extraordinary joy and a deeply disappointing reality check. Yesterday after attending worship and teaching Sunday School at our church my wife and I hurried off to our son’s church to attend another worship service in which … Continue reading

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